Anne M. Fletcher approached the question of how to help those who drink too much in a very logical way. She asked hundreds of people who had successfully dealt with their drinking problems how other people had helped them either moderate or eliminate their drinking.

The results are summarized in the following nine recommendations that are included in her book Sober for Good: New Solutions for Drinking Problems -- Advice from Those who Have Succeeded.

  • Don’t make it easy for the drinker to keep on drinking.
  • Don’t stop loving the problem drinker.
  • Don’t nag, criticize, preach, or complain
  • Address the drinking problem directly.
  • Seek help.
  • Detach, separate, walk away.
  • Set a good example.
  • Take care of yourself.
  • Be there when the person is ready.

To learn more about each of these recommendations, see her chapter titled “You Can Help.”

One of the five major myths that Anne Fletcher dispels in this book is that there’s nothing that others can do to help a person with a drinking problem until that person is ready.

It may be possible to help now by suggesting that the person consider outside help. Free or inexpensive options include HAMS (Harm reduction, Abstinence, and Moderation Support), LifeRing Recovery, Women for Sobriety, Moderation Management, Rational Recovery, SMART Recovery (Self-Management and Recovery Training), SOS (Secular Organizations for Sobriety) and the Life Process Program. These are much less threatening choices than AA.

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